Soooo I’ve been banging on about it for ages, but I’m finally on holiday! Wohooo! So, I’ve called upon some of my wonderful fellow bloggers to babysit The Mighty Duxburys for me whilst we’re away (the blog, not our actual family, that would be weird). Today, I’m hosting a post I absolutely love from the wonderful Hayley over at Devon Mama.
When it comes to be a parent, one of the first things you learn is that everyone has an opinion. Worst of all, that opinion is almost always right. Yep, rightly or wrongly, parenting brings with it a whole raft of comments, thoughts and opinions on how things should and shouldn’t be done. None more so than from those nearest and dearest to you.
Now, some of the time those little tips and insights are going to be singlehandedly some of the most useful things you learn. Some of the time. Because the shame of it is that the majority of pieces of advice you’re offered aren’t. They’re not wrong (well, sometimes they outright are), they’re just different to yours and it can be hard feeling like you’re making the wrong choice for your child or parenting incorrectly.
How do I know that? There’s no such thing as parenting incorrectly. On the whole anyway. Yes there are always going to be extreme examples of people who frankly shouldn’t have been allowed to have children but that’s a whole different matter. What I mean is, you could take a thousand different parents and each one would raise their child with a slightly different blueprint, different rules, different methods and yet each and every one of them is right. Because the idea is that parenting has to be right for you and your family. Not anyone elses.
There’s no opinion more divisive in a family than that of a parent and unfortunately it’s usually the mother in law who bears the brunt of this. Having raised her own child (clearly well enough for you to decide to have a child with them!), she’s primed to pass over information about how to do it properly. Especially if your mother in law is akin to mine and has raised a number of children already, she has an opinion that she’s not afraid to share and frankly, does it one too many times. She’s close enough for it to feel like a personal comment and yet not close enough for it to feel as well intentioned as it was probably meant and I’ll admit that it’s the source of many an argument between my husband and I.
The truth is that regardless of how she, or anyone else for that matter, feels about my parenting techniques they’re exactly that. Mine. Well, mine and my husbands. And we intend to keep them that way. After all, my child, my choice.
Devon Mama is run by Hayley – a 30 year old mama, wife and recovering sleep addict. Living with her husband, son and the world’s bounciest dog in rural Devon, she can usually be found attempting to cook, Googling everything and embracing the strange new world that is parenting. Add in a house with ‘a lot of potential’ and a return to her ‘real’ job as a Company Director and it’s organized chaos at the best of times.
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