If you’re currently pregnant (your maybe your partner is), you are probably weighing up all the pros and cons of being a stay-at-home parent after the birth. There are many reasons why lots of people choose to quit their job so that they can become full-time mums. When I was pregnant, I’d had loved to have been a position to jack in my job and stay at home with my little one all the time, but financially that simply wasn’t viable for us. For a lot of people it is though. It drastically cuts down the costs of childcare and it will give you a lot more time to bond with your child. But is it really worth it?
There are so many portrayals of the stay-at-home parent that show it to be a really wholesome and fulfilling role and I’m sure it is, in the main. However, what people don’t show are the downsides to it. So, to try and debunk the whole myth of the stay-at-home mum (from someone who isn’t one, and couldn’t be one), here are some of the cons that you should expect to experience along with all the pros.
There’s No Chance Of A Break
Once you become a full-time mum, it’s just you and your child at home together while your partner is out at work. This can be perfectly fine at first, but some women start to feel like they are trapped in their own home after a while! I had eight weeks of maternity leave with Short Rib, with no car and no nearby family who weren’t at work… believe me, you go stir crazy quite quickly. You’ll soon start to wish you could take a break to go and meet your friends for a coffee or even just do the shopping without your baby. I used to think that sounded really harsh but the reality of life is that some things are just easier without your child in tow. And it is important that you do plan some me-time such as a catch up over a coffee so that you don’t go too mad!
Working From Home Isn’t So Easy
You might think that being a stay-at-home mum gives you the chance to work on some side projects and work from home. I started this blog, thinking I’d have all the time in the world to have at it. Newborns even lull you into this false sense of security because they sleep so much, but it ain’t as easy as that, unfortunately! Most of your time will be taken up with looking after the baby, and you might find it incredibly difficult to juggle any professional responsibilities. It only gets more difficult as they get older… Apparently, substance abuse and stress are just some of the more serious side effects of being a home-based entrepreneur. If you have a hard time working from home while trying to care for a newborn at the same time, you might be putting yourself at risk of these.
There’ll Be A Gap On Your CV
Even though you have a very good reason for the gap on your CV, you will find that there are still some recruiters and potential employers who see it as a negative. That’s because you put something before your career progress, which some employers might see as a lack of motivation. Once you do start to think about going back to work, you might be at another disadvantage because you will now be competing with people who have a lot more recent experience.
Your Household Income Will Reduce
Sure, you will be able to cut down your childcare costs by staying at home, but that also means that you will lose one of your household’s sources of income. You will only have your partner’s salary to live off. Are you sure you can all afford that? We couldn’t, plain and simple.
As you can see, becoming a stay-at-home mum isn’t quite so clear cut. There are lots of positives and negatives you need to consider!
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